Supporting yourself and others
Posted on 25 October 2020
As a University community, we are all facing times that can challenge our health and wellbeing, so it’s good to know that the University has a range of health and wellbeing resources that can help if you need support.
But, as a community, we can also help each other, making sure that everyone is aware of how to get help and support if they need it.
Here are some top tips about checking in with friends:
Checking in
If you are part of the same household, this could be a face-to-face conversation over a cuppa. If they are not part of your household, you could arrange to meet up outside or go for a walk while you talk. Get somewhere comfortable and private before telephoning or texting to ask how are you? Make sure you have time and won’t have to rush off in case they do want to talk.
Useful questions to ask
Sometimes, when we ask how someone is feeling, the inevitable answer is “fine”. You may need to #AskTwice.
Start with an open question, like “How are you feeling at the moment?”, then give the person your full focus and listen without interrupting. Keep the chat positive and supportive, exploring the issues, but don’t feel you have to fix things - sometimes a listening ear is exactly what is needed.
Encourage them to take a look at our health and wellbeing pages, so they are aware of what support is available - it can also be helpful to encourage the person to access that help.
Look after yourself
Checking in with others is a positive way to help in these challenging times. However, if you have significant concerns about someone, this should be raised with your college or the other services on the help and support pages. There are also details of what to do in case of an emergency.
And remember - your own health and wellbeing is also important, so make sure you are looking after yourself and know about all the resources and support available to you.
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